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I’m Thankful for What I have πŸ˜ŠβœŒπŸŒ»

Hello Everyone, 

Since it is Monday today I decided to simply do a blog post about what I am thankful for.  These past few months have been full of ups and Downs that I sometimes tend to keep focusing on the negative moments that I have had more,  than on the positive moments that I have experienced.  Being thankful is mostly something that we think about in November for Thanksgiving,  but I try to think every month what I am thankful for;  but honestly I do forget sometimes.  So here are five things that I am thankful for:

1. I’m thankful for having a loving boyfriend who loves me for who I am and respects me. It was not a love at first sight,  it was more of like a love that happened unexpectedly but in a good way. 

2. My family and friends,  even though I have not had the chance to go visit my family in Orange County,  California,  I do miss them a lot.  Calling my mom and my twin sister helps though.  I also miss my friends a lot and hopefully someday I can see them again. 

3. Having a job is another thing that I am thankful for.  I used to struggle looking for a job in which I can support myself financially with out relying on my parents a lot.  Having a job as a CNA has helped me understand the value of helping others.  

4. Loving my unique self and accepting my natural beauty is something that I am truly thankful for because there have been times in my life while growing up that I have felt insecure about myself,  and my physical image.  I have also struggled with my self-confidence,  I used to listen and take to heart what everyone thought about me,  to the point that I would let everyone’s negative comments affect me in negative way. 

5. Continuing with my higher education is another thing that I am thankful for because coming Mexican immigrant parents,  I have learned the value of having an education and working hard towards my dreams and goals is something to be proud of in life.  My parents we’re not so fortunate enough to get a college degree because they had to work to provide for themselves and their families so my parents have always instilled me and my siblings to work hard and to never give up on our own dreams and goals no matter how challenging it may seem. I want to have a career in writing,  so it is something that I am working on right now,  and even though it may seem challenging I do not want to give up in my goal of publishing a novel someday. 

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What Matters Most

Hello Everyone:)!

To have loving relationships in life is important because God is love. For me, it has been tough having a loving and healthy relationship with my Step-Dad. I remember the times that I would argue with him and fight with him. Most of the time I would think that he did not really love me and my twin sister the way he would with my other siblings.
Whenever I did something wrong that would make him angry at me he would just talk to me in a mean tone of voice, and just ignore me for days or weeks.
And during those times that he would ignore me I would feel like it was my fault that he did not love me anymore like a daughter. My relationship with him has been complicated that it was like a vicious cycle were he would talk to me and then he would not, then back and forth always; it never changes.
I know he wants what is best for me and sometimes tries his best to be a great Step-Father to me and my twin sister but like in a saying: “no family is perfect, every family is dysfunctional in many ways.” I used to think that there was such a thing as perfect families where there is no problem with each other. It is normal to have an imperfect dysfunctional family, it has taken me so long to accept my Step-Dad that I am still struggling with having a healthy relationship with him.
I ask myself often, how can I have a healthy relationship with him? What can I start doing to have the same loving relationship that I have with my Mom?

International Day of Happiness: What Happiness is to Me :)

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Today is International Day of Happiness and I wanted to share with you what happiness is to me. To me happiness is waking up each day knowing that it is a new day with a fresh start, to forget about the troubles that would worry me to death the day before or the weeks before. Happiness is remembering all of the good and great times I have had with my family, friends, and school. Although I am twenty-three, I can still remember the happy memories I had when I was in elementary, middle school, and high school.

Happiness is doing something that you really love to do not just as a hobby, but also as a job everyday. To me what brings me happiness is writing poems and stories, and posting blog posts here on my blog whenever I can. I am majoring in Creative Writing because I want to share with other people my love for writing and reading. I want to teach and motivate others to see writing as a valuable way to express themselves; just like music, art, and dance let’s us express ourselves in a unique way, so is writing also. To me writing has helped me through my lonely times express myself in a way that it would be difficult for me to express to others around me.

My family always give me a reason to be happy in spite of the challenges and struggles that I have experienced, and still do. My Mom, twin sister, and my ten year-old sister always motivate me and make me smile during the tough times, they help me see that life is beautiful and not dark, lonely, and cold. I really do not have any friends, so I guess I can consider my family as friends right now.

The promise of joining Job Corps makes me happy right now because I have been struggling for a long time to get a job because I really want to support my parents, simply taking online college courses is not going to help my parents enough, so I decided to apply at Job Corps where young adults from 18 to 24 get career technical and education training in several technical careers, while at the same time getting benefits like allowance while getting career technical training, a dormitory to sleep in, three meals a day, and a chance to meet other young adults who are in Job Corps also. I believe that this program will help me develop the skills that I need to get a better career and job to be able to help my parents like they deserve. Hopefully they accept me:) all I can do right now is wait and hopefully I can get in because I really want to be at Job Corps.

Believing in God makes me happy because it helps me realize that He is always with me no matter what happens to me or where I go. It took me a long time to accept him, to learn more Him, and to open my eyes to him; to see that God is my friend and Savior. I know that there have been times were I ignore him, or think that he is not with me, but deep down inside I know that He loves me for who I am.

So what makes you happy? You are welcome to share in the comments section below, I would like to know more about what makes you happy everyday:) Hopefully you all have a happy weekend.

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Being Careful

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Being careful in life is not always easy. There are many temptations that keep us from being careful in life. We are not perfect humans and if we do not watch what we do, what we say, or what we think, then those actions, thoughts, and feelings we create inside of us can affect us in so many ways.

When we are young, we tend to often think that nothing will happen to us; that everything we do whether it is good or bad will not hurt us. Of course taking risks and being adventurous is always our goal in life but we also have to learn to see when it is safe and when it looks like we have crossed the line from being careful to facing danger.

My Mom has always been super protective of me ever since me and my twin sister were born so I sometimes know that she does not want me to be in danger. She is always making sure that I stay safe all the time and that I am always careful in everything I do. She was not always careful during her childhood and adolescence mainly because she lost her Mother when she was three years old so her need to take care of me and my siblings really is important to her. Being the youngest sibling in her family,Β the only family she had were: her Father, sisters and other relatives that would take care of her but nothing compared to the deep sincere love that she had for her Father. Her Father taught her how to take care of herself at a very young age. The knowledge of not having a Mother really made my Mom learn to be responsible and careful on her own as she grew throughout the years.

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How I spent New Years Eve 2015

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It’s officially 2015 and this also means that it is the second day of 2015 which means I am still on my reflection mode.

A year has gone
A year has come
It is a year of hopes
A year to make new mistakes
And to learn from them.

December 31 was full of anticipation, waiting for what will be in store for us.
My parents coming and going
Their hands carrying a suitcase,
A ritual to welcome the new year.
Like all other years, they all believe this year will be different,
This year will be better
Their smiles, huge and heartwarming bring a renewed sence of belief and motivation.
Inside I am shaking, not with horror but with excitement and happiness as we all give cheers to each other and eat the twelve grapes.

Each grape represents all of the twelve months of this new year.
As I make a wish first before eating a grape one by one, I wonder: does this ritual work?
I have always wondered, yes or no, I dont need to find the answer
Everyone doing it with confidence and hope, makes me realize that all you have to do is believe.

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My sister, Andrea, my Mom, and me enjoying New Years Eve 2015 :-).

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The balloons that we pop at the end of the countdown to welcome the new year, our house gets really loud πŸ™‚

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My Mom preparing the candles, the 12 grapes, and to give cheers for this new year.
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Ready to welcome the new year πŸ™‚

December 23, 2014

Hello Everyone :-)!

December 23 was such a great and awesome day πŸ™‚ I cannot stop thinking about how motivating and wonderful it was to reunite with an old friend and spend time with Jesus Christ. I am so glad I decided to go visit my friend Mayra’s Christian church that is in Chino, California. I met Mayra’s whole family, they are all involved in the

church that they go to that it even inspired me to go back to volunteering as a lector in my church, St. Angela Merici.

The kids that go to the church did really great Christmas performances both in dancing and singing. There was also a twenty-two year-old young men who sings Christian music, his name is Alvinson, he only sang in Spanish so I was able to understand and enjoy the music he was playing πŸ™‚ Christian music always gets me in the spirit of Jesus Christ.

The food was awesome, but all in all what really mattered was that I got to spend it with my friend Mayra, Jesus Christ, and meet some new friends.

My Own Opinion: How Cheating Affects Relationships

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I am going to start posting articles I write on Hubpages here as well as my other social websites. You are welcome to comment and share with others the articles. I want to know what you think about the topics that I write. So hope you enjoy reading them as much as I like writing and researching about these topics.

My Own Opinion on Relationship Cheating

I have not experienced cheating before because I have not been in a relationship yet, I hope I do not have to experience this situation in my own life because eventhough I have not experienced it, I at least have seen other people suffer in a relationship because either the wife or husband cheated to the other person. It is not something that I like to see happen to other people, and less if that ever happened to my parents.

I decided to share with you my own personal opinion about this deep emotional topic and share some advice and helpful information that you can refer to back if you or someone else you know is going through this type of problem, it is important to seek help from a marriage counselor.

1. Dishonest, Talk it Over

Cheating in a relationship can affect both people in a negative way especially if one of them has been dishonest throughout the whole relationship. Words hurt even more as well as the actions.

Advice: It is important to say the truth and that both people in a relationship are able to confide in each other in a positive way. If two people in a relationship do not have that type of communication and just keep on lying, or keeping things away from each other than the relationship is not going to work.

  • For starters, instead of arguing and fighting, why not try to take a few deep breaths, calm yourself and your partner, and talk the problem over in an appropriate way. Find out together what is it that is making your relationship worse, usually when you and your partner talk over your feelings and problems, it can be helpful in finding ways to solve the problem, and will maybe help your relationship grow.

Speaking right in a relationship is the foundation for solving relationship problems.

Statistics on Cheating in Relationships

These statistics on infidelity taken from: Statistic Brain.com explain the percentage of infidelity problems that have affected couples.

  • 41% of relationships were both couples have admitted to cheating in the relationship, either physical or emotional.
  • 57% of men who have admitted to cheating in a relationship they have had.
  • 54% of women who have admitted to cheating in a relationship they have had.

These following statistics show that the percentage for men who have cheated is high compared to women, who is fifty-four percent.

Then…

  • 74% of men who say they would have an affair with someone if they would never get caught.
  • 68% of women who say they would have an affair with someone if they would never get caught.

The same result is happening for men, showing their percentage to be higher than the percentage in women. This clearly shows that men are more likely to cheat someone in a relationship. I think that men are rebels when it comes to relationships, it is like they like to break relationship rules that bound couples together. On the other hand, women are more likely to be honest in a relationship and respect that person in their relationship.

2. It is True Love

I am not talking here in this section about true love in fairy tales, but in real life when a couple speak to each other like old friends then it is clear to see that the relationship they have is true love and nothing else.

Advice:

  • If one of the people in a relationship does not truly have feelings for that other person then I believe it is just easier to admit the truth to that person. It is better for you to tell the truth instead of hurting that person in a negative way.

3. Loose Trust

Cheating also makes the other person in the relationship loose the trust that person had with you. Loosing trust from that significant other is not a good thing to go through because that person will not want to believe you anymore because they will never want to know if you truly learned your lesson, or not.

Advice: If you feel that you are cheating on someone and want to fix the problem before it gets worse, then I would suggest to seek help from a marriage counselor.

More statistic facts on relationship cheating.

4. It Affects Kids also

Yes, cheating involving a married couple with kids can significantly affect the kids as well. What happens in the family, affects the entire family as well. When a situation like this affects children in an emotional way it can be difficult to explain to them about a subject that is so confusing for them to understand. When parents do not take the time to talk to their kids about your relationship problem, it can make the kid feel like they are ignored.

Advice:

Do not keep your kids out of the problem, what I am trying to say is do not hide this problem away from them because they might be young, but they are able to recognize when something in the family is not going right as it should be. Kids are part of the family also and they have a right to know also what is going on in the family. When explaining to them, talk to them about the problem in words they can understand, Let them help you in finding a solution to the relationship problem. Who knows maybe solving the problem together will help you as a family grow closer than ever in a positive way.

When a kid experiences parents fighting all the time it can create deep emotional problems to the child that can truly affect them in a negative way.

Conclusion

I do not have much knowledge on this deep emotional subject, but I at least know that it is just best in a relationship to be honest and just say the truth to that other significant person. If you do not truly love that person then why hurt that person by cheating?

The best and harmless way is to just tell that person how you feel, then that person will understand and no harm will be done.

It Is Christmas Again!:)

Hello Everyone!:)

It’s that wonderful time of year again!:) That year were we get to celebrate the joy of Christmas and gift-giving, it is also the time when we get to spend the most quality time with our families. I personally like Christmas not because of just giving and receiving presents, but also because I like to spend the time with my family, and forget about my sorrows for a while.

Many people get consumed by the need of buying presents and figuring out the recipes for a great Christmas dinner and what we are going to wear for that special Christmas Eve or Christmas Day party, really those things matter, but what really matters is that we have our family close together for the holidays.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!:)

Thanksgiving Quotes

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Now that Thanksgiving is around the corner and we are all starting to get busy with making the Thanksgiving cooking preparations and creating your Black Friday shopping list like how I was doing a few minutes ago, it is also important that we do not forget the true meaning of Thanksgiving Day and how we have to give thanks to God for giving us all the wonderful blessings we have in our life.

Me I am blessed with having a caring and wonderful family that loves me no matter what trials we have had in the past or what challenges we will face in the future I know that we will be there for each other through good and bad times. I am also blessed this year to have made the decision of continuing with my college education as I know how tough it has been for me not to give up on continuing. I am really blessed to have discovered my love for writing and have realized that it is something I should not give up because I really like creating stories as they always are born inside my mind. There is a lot to be thankful for in this world.

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To take the Advice, Or Not

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As a young adult now still growing up and still learning, it is at times tough for me to listen to others words of wisdom especially when it involves my parents. I know that being twenty-three years old means that i no longer have to obey by my parents rules and that now I am free to do whatever I want.

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But just because I am twenty-three does not mean that I no longer have to follow anyone’s advice. I sometimes tend to ignore an advice that I at first do not realize how that advice could have helped me until much later, when I either have already done something stupid to make the problem more worse than how it already was, or did not take the chance to try that advice.

“Good advice is always certain to be ignored, but that’s no reason not to give it.”
Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β  -Agatha Christie

How many of you have ever ignored a really good advice that someone from your family, or even a friend have told you to do?

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Without being bossy or unpleasant, I will give advice when I think it is important-even if I risk irritating someone like me.

This is true for me, I have realized that I have been countless of times like this with my younger sister, Andrea where she gets really annoyed at me when I keep on giving her the same advice many times. I have been annoyed also at my parents whenever they would give me advice repeatedly that there were times when I wished that they were not so annoying and preachful. But I know that the people that care for me the most are always going to be like that to me.

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So a word of wisdom: please do not ignore an advice from someone you know deeply cares for you.