Monthly Archives: December 2014

Self -Confidence is Important

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I did not always have self-confidence. When I was younger I would often be told by my Aunt Carmen, and my Mom whenever they saw me walking outside with my head on the floor. They always ended up telling me if I had low self-confidence in myself, or if I was hiding something from them, scared I would always reply that I honestly was not hiding something away from them, and secondly, that I did not have a low self-esteem.

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I later realized at 13 years old that I did not always have self-confidence in myself. I was always worrying about what my parents and other might think of me, constantly worrying if everyone around me will like me. I would sometimes exaggerate if someone did not like me. Not having self-confidence kept me away from taking risks and trying new things.

Today I am slowly learning to embrace myself in a positive way and learning to accept myself both on the inside and outside.

Having self-confidence will help us get to where we want to go and will help us achieve our goals and dreams in life.

“Never bend your head. Hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.”      -Helen Keller

“Perhaps I am stronger than I think.”    -Thomas Merton

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I am not Perfect

I am not Perfect
My faults are my friends,
They make me imperfect.

You see my faults,
My fears,
My mistakes
My weaknesses.

Those faults,
Those fears,
Those mistakes,
Those weaknesses
Haunt me everywhere I go
Night and day they follow me.
Up, up higher, higher
They catch me
They chain me tight not letting me free.
They call me
They know my name
Like a criminal,
I am on the run trying to escape
Away, away, far away from my fears and doubts.

I am not perfect
Imperfect is my friend,
Imperfect is my shadow
It will never fade.

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Some drawings from my sketch book

I enjoyed reading your personal thoughts and feelings, expressing myself through writing has always helped me.

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/home/wpcom/public_html/wp-content/blogs.dir/7dc/81370765/files/2014/12/img_2871-0.jpg The first drawing was inspired while reading a book my Grandad gave me on the history of Ireland. I came across a picture of a tiny cottage in the middle of no where and I thought I would love to be there right now – alone with my thoughts for a while. I think it’s important to be alone from time to time so that you can get to know and understand yourself – everything can become clearer when you can think clearly without distractions.

I was feeling quite overwhelmed at the time of these drawings, especially the second one – sensory overload.

The third drawing was inspired by wanting to break free, to break away from constraints, from those things in everyday life which can sometimes weigh you down if you let them. Also how I was longing to get away from the hustle and bustle of the city…

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Inside my Notebook

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“Inside my Notebook” is a poem I wrote one day when I was feeling emotional in a positive way about how much writing has helped me through the tough times I was experiencing.

“Inside my Notebook”

Inside my notebook
Are the secrets, and feelings
That I keep inside,
Not daring to show them
In the open for fear of what others
Might think of me.

The notebook,
Its blank white pages, empty
Are my friends waiting to be written on, waiting to feel the ink touch on them.
The word trust exists in each blank page that binds the notebook together.
They know nothing of judgement or negativity.

Inside my notebook, life experiences are waiting to be etched forever to remain there,
Never to be erased.
Inside my notebook are my secrets that I will never reveal.

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December 23, 2014

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December 23 was such a great and awesome day 🙂 I cannot stop thinking about how motivating and wonderful it was to reunite with an old friend and spend time with Jesus Christ. I am so glad I decided to go visit my friend Mayra’s Christian church that is in Chino, California. I met Mayra’s whole family, they are all involved in the

church that they go to that it even inspired me to go back to volunteering as a lector in my church, St. Angela Merici.

The kids that go to the church did really great Christmas performances both in dancing and singing. There was also a twenty-two year-old young men who sings Christian music, his name is Alvinson, he only sang in Spanish so I was able to understand and enjoy the music he was playing 🙂 Christian music always gets me in the spirit of Jesus Christ.

The food was awesome, but all in all what really mattered was that I got to spend it with my friend Mayra, Jesus Christ, and meet some new friends.

My Own Opinion: How Cheating Affects Relationships

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I am going to start posting articles I write on Hubpages here as well as my other social websites. You are welcome to comment and share with others the articles. I want to know what you think about the topics that I write. So hope you enjoy reading them as much as I like writing and researching about these topics.

My Own Opinion on Relationship Cheating

I have not experienced cheating before because I have not been in a relationship yet, I hope I do not have to experience this situation in my own life because eventhough I have not experienced it, I at least have seen other people suffer in a relationship because either the wife or husband cheated to the other person. It is not something that I like to see happen to other people, and less if that ever happened to my parents.

I decided to share with you my own personal opinion about this deep emotional topic and share some advice and helpful information that you can refer to back if you or someone else you know is going through this type of problem, it is important to seek help from a marriage counselor.

1. Dishonest, Talk it Over

Cheating in a relationship can affect both people in a negative way especially if one of them has been dishonest throughout the whole relationship. Words hurt even more as well as the actions.

Advice: It is important to say the truth and that both people in a relationship are able to confide in each other in a positive way. If two people in a relationship do not have that type of communication and just keep on lying, or keeping things away from each other than the relationship is not going to work.

  • For starters, instead of arguing and fighting, why not try to take a few deep breaths, calm yourself and your partner, and talk the problem over in an appropriate way. Find out together what is it that is making your relationship worse, usually when you and your partner talk over your feelings and problems, it can be helpful in finding ways to solve the problem, and will maybe help your relationship grow.

Speaking right in a relationship is the foundation for solving relationship problems.

Statistics on Cheating in Relationships

These statistics on infidelity taken from: Statistic Brain.com explain the percentage of infidelity problems that have affected couples.

  • 41% of relationships were both couples have admitted to cheating in the relationship, either physical or emotional.
  • 57% of men who have admitted to cheating in a relationship they have had.
  • 54% of women who have admitted to cheating in a relationship they have had.

These following statistics show that the percentage for men who have cheated is high compared to women, who is fifty-four percent.

Then…

  • 74% of men who say they would have an affair with someone if they would never get caught.
  • 68% of women who say they would have an affair with someone if they would never get caught.

The same result is happening for men, showing their percentage to be higher than the percentage in women. This clearly shows that men are more likely to cheat someone in a relationship. I think that men are rebels when it comes to relationships, it is like they like to break relationship rules that bound couples together. On the other hand, women are more likely to be honest in a relationship and respect that person in their relationship.

2. It is True Love

I am not talking here in this section about true love in fairy tales, but in real life when a couple speak to each other like old friends then it is clear to see that the relationship they have is true love and nothing else.

Advice:

  • If one of the people in a relationship does not truly have feelings for that other person then I believe it is just easier to admit the truth to that person. It is better for you to tell the truth instead of hurting that person in a negative way.

3. Loose Trust

Cheating also makes the other person in the relationship loose the trust that person had with you. Loosing trust from that significant other is not a good thing to go through because that person will not want to believe you anymore because they will never want to know if you truly learned your lesson, or not.

Advice: If you feel that you are cheating on someone and want to fix the problem before it gets worse, then I would suggest to seek help from a marriage counselor.

More statistic facts on relationship cheating.

4. It Affects Kids also

Yes, cheating involving a married couple with kids can significantly affect the kids as well. What happens in the family, affects the entire family as well. When a situation like this affects children in an emotional way it can be difficult to explain to them about a subject that is so confusing for them to understand. When parents do not take the time to talk to their kids about your relationship problem, it can make the kid feel like they are ignored.

Advice:

Do not keep your kids out of the problem, what I am trying to say is do not hide this problem away from them because they might be young, but they are able to recognize when something in the family is not going right as it should be. Kids are part of the family also and they have a right to know also what is going on in the family. When explaining to them, talk to them about the problem in words they can understand, Let them help you in finding a solution to the relationship problem. Who knows maybe solving the problem together will help you as a family grow closer than ever in a positive way.

When a kid experiences parents fighting all the time it can create deep emotional problems to the child that can truly affect them in a negative way.

Conclusion

I do not have much knowledge on this deep emotional subject, but I at least know that it is just best in a relationship to be honest and just say the truth to that other significant person. If you do not truly love that person then why hurt that person by cheating?

The best and harmless way is to just tell that person how you feel, then that person will understand and no harm will be done.

The Secret Book: Chapter 1

Chapter 1

Ally could not contain her patience as she sneaked an old notebook that she had found in the attic of her grandparents house.

She opened it to discover it blank but its pages were in great condition still.

“Great what good is this notebook if it does not have any words.” She took a pen out from her desk drawer and wrote:

Dear Diary,

I know you are a really old journal from hundreds of years ago and you have been empty, I will write to you as a secret book just like Secret Alice does.

Sincerely,

Ally 🙂

My Life in Quotes: Introduction

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Life can seem like it is swallowing you apart with all of the problems coming to you, it sometimes seems that the problems will never end for us, that they will keep on coming and going, then new ones come.

Here are song lyrics and quotes that I will always keep close to my heart and mind. Hope these quotes help you, as they are helping me also.

For me, life like many others, faced the same ups and downs that I have. I have learned the hard way that life is not always rainbows and butterflies. Each of us in this world will face our own challenges and problems in a positive way. For me overcoming my fears and doubts ( which I still have many), has always been by reading motivational quotes and song lyrics.

These are a collection of sonng lyrics and quotes that I like and that I know I will always keep close to my heart and mind.

It Is Christmas Again!:)

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It’s that wonderful time of year again!:) That year were we get to celebrate the joy of Christmas and gift-giving, it is also the time when we get to spend the most quality time with our families. I personally like Christmas not because of just giving and receiving presents, but also because I like to spend the time with my family, and forget about my sorrows for a while.

Many people get consumed by the need of buying presents and figuring out the recipes for a great Christmas dinner and what we are going to wear for that special Christmas Eve or Christmas Day party, really those things matter, but what really matters is that we have our family close together for the holidays.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!:)

Need Some Writing Inspiration

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This week is being really busy and productive for me because I have been busy with my college schoolwork, job searching, and house chores. I am also busy writing a lot. My problem with writing is I often get distracted and so I put of my writing for a while when I know I should not be doing that.

Here are some quotes to get me inspired:

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